Thursday, April 8, 2010

clothing, fashion accessories, apparel

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One of the primary purposes of clothing is to keep the wearer comfortable. In hot climates clothing provides protection from sunburn or wind damage, while in cold climates its thermal insulation properties are generally more important. Shelter usually reduces the functional need for clothing. For example, coats, hats, gloves, shoes, socks, and other superficial layers would normally be removed when entering or once inside a warm home, particularly if one is residing or sleeping there. Similarly, clothing has seasonal and regional aspects, so that thinner materials and fewer layers of clothing are generally worn in warmer seasons and regions than in colder ones.

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Clothing can protect against many things that might injure the uncovered human body. Clothes act as protection from the elements, including rain, snow and wind and other weather conditions, as well as from the sun. Clothes also reduce the level of risk during activity, such as work or sport. Clothing at times is worn as protection from specific environmental hazards, such as insects, noxious chemicals, weapons, and contact with abrasive substances. Conversely, clothing may protect the environment from the clothing wearer, as with doctors wearing medical scrubs.

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Humans have shown extreme inventiveness in devising clothing solutions to environmental hazards. Some examples include: space suits, air conditioned clothing, armor, diving suits, swimsuits, bee-keeper gear, motorcycle leathers, high-visibility clothing, and other pieces of protective clothing. Meanwhile, the distinction between clothing and protective equipment is not always clear-cut, since clothes designed to be fashionable will often have some protective value and clothes which are designed to be functional will often consider fashion in their design.

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In most cultures, [[gender differences|gender differentiation]] of clothing is considered appropriate for men and women. The differences are in styles, colors and fabrics.
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In Western societies, [[skirt]]s, [[Dress (garment)|dresses]] and [[high-heeled shoe]]s are usually seen as women's clothing, while [[necktie]]s are usually seen as men's clothing. [[Trousers]] were once seen as exclusively male clothing, but are nowadays worn by both sexes. Male clothes are often more practical (that is, they can function well under a wide variety of situations), but a wider range of clothing styles are available for females. Males are typically allowed to [[bare chested|bare their chests]] in a greater variety of public places. It is generally acceptable for a woman to wear traditionally male clothing, while the converse is unusual.
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In some cultures, [[sumptuary law]]s regulate what men and women are required to wear. [[Islam]] requires women to wear [[hijab]], or modest clothing. What qualifies as "modest" varies in different Muslim societies; however, women are usually required to cover more of their bodies than men are. Articles of clothing worn by Muslim women for purposes of modesty range from the [[headscarf]] to the [[burqa]].
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Men may sometimes choose to wear colorful clothing, while in very traditional cultures women are protected from men's gazes by modest dress.
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In some societies, clothing may be used to indicate rank or [[social status|status]]. In ancient [[Ancient Rome|Rome]], for example, only senators were permitted to wear garments dyed with [[Tyrian purple]]. In traditional [[Native Hawaiians|Hawaiian]] society only high-ranking chiefs could wear [[feather cloak]]s and palaoa or carved [[whale]] teeth. Under the [[Travancore]] Kingdom of [[Kerala]], ([[India]]), lower [[caste]] women had to pay a tax for the right to cover their upper body. In [[China]], before the establishment of the [[Republic of China|republic]], only the emperor could wear [[yellow]]. There are numerous examples throughout history of elaborate systems of [[sumptuary law]]s regulating what people could wear. In societies without such laws, which includes most modern societies, social status is instead signaled by the purchase of high cost, rare, or luxury items, the purchase of which are effectively limited to those with the wealth or status to acquire them. In addition, [[peer pressure]] may influence clothing choice.

Religious clothing might be considered a special case of occupational clothing. Sometimes it is worn only during the performance of religious ceremonies. However, it may also be worn everyday as a marker for special religious status.
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For example, [[Jain]]s wear unstitched cloth pieces when performing religious ceremonies. The unstitched cloth signifies unified and complete devotion to the task at hand, with no digression.{{Citation needed|date=October 2008}} Sikhs wear a turban as it is a part of their religion.
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The cleanliness of religious dresses in Eastern Religions like [[Hinduism]], [[Sikhism]], [[Buddhism]] and [[Jainism]] is of paramount importance, since it indicates purity.
Clothing figures prominently in the [[Bible]] where it appears in numerous contexts, the more prominent ones being: the story of Adam and Eve, Joseph's cloak, Judah and Tamar, Mordechai and Esther. Furthermore the priests officiating in the Temple had very specific garments, the lack of which would make one liable to death.
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Jewish ritual also requires rending of one's upper garment as a sign of mourning. This practice is found in the Bible when Jacob hears of the apparent death of his son Joseph.

Monday, April 5, 2010

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Dr. Richard Oppenlander, is finding new and innovative ways to educate his patients about dental awareness and good oral health. Patients can now easily access reliable, patient friendly resources via Dr. Oppenlander's comprehensive website and in-office educational technology.
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Dr. Oppenlander is a general dentist in Kalamazoo and Portage. His full-service practice and dedicated team of dental professionals offer quality cosmetic and family dental care in a convenient, state-of-the-art facility. From professional teeth whitening and veneers to implant restoration and Lumineers, Dr. Oppenlander and his qualified staff provide a wide range of treatments for every patient's dental need.
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"Our practice is dedicated to the health and comfort of our patients," said Dr. Oppenlander. "Educated patients are healthy patients, so we are proud to offer computerized educational tools that empower our patients to make informed decisions regarding treatment and dental health."
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When patients visit Dr. Oppenlander's site, they can explore the wide range of educational dental resources. Patients searching for information on particular treatments can browse through the services page for detailed information on each procedure. Or, to stay abreast of the latest practice news and dental care, patients can access this Portage dentist's informational online newsletters.
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Additionally, each private room in the dental office is equipped with chairside technology featuring computerized educational tools that empower patients to make the most informed decisions regarding treatment and dental care. The informative program is used to explain and review diagnoses, procedures, alternative and post-op instructions in an easily accessible manner.
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"Our extensive practice website has created an avenue in which I can communicate and share valuable dental information with my patients at all hours of the day," said Dr. Oppenlander. "Whether patients are looking for information on a particular symptom or want to learn more about a specific treatment, they can easily visit our website for instant access."
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Blending advanced technology, continued education, years of clinical experience and an innate concern for every patient's optimal dental health, Dr. Oppenlander strives to deliver the most comfortable and professional dental experience for every patient he serves.
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About Dr. Richard A. Oppenlander, D.D.S., P.L.C.: Dr. Richard A. Oppenlander has been practicing family and cosmetic dentistry for several years and has helped thousands of patients achieve their healthiest most beautiful smiles. He offers comprehensive dental care in a state-of-the-art facility, including teeth whitening, implants, veneers and lumineers. Dr. Oppenlander is also a member of American Academy of Cosmetic Dentistry, American General Dentistry, American Dental Association, Michigan Dental Association, American Academy of Implant Dentistry and Kalamazoo Valley District Dental Society.

Lifestyle News Fashion Dress

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For the first time ever, the FDA has approved a study out of the Medical College of Georgia that will attempt to test the effectiveness of adult umbilical cord stem cells in the treatment of the symptoms of cerebral palsy. For sufferers of cerebral palsy, this could be the first step toward alleviating the outward symptoms, if not necessarily an outright cure.
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Anecdotal evidence suggests this treatment has a chance of working. For more than 20 years, doctors have used stem cells from umbilical blood, and these tests have showed increased mobility in patients suffering from cerebral palsy.
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Cerebral palsy is generally caused either by a brain injury or by a lack of oxygen making its way to the brain. Blood from the umbilical cord is rich in stem cells, which are able to divide and multiply, and then transform into other types of cells. In animal studies, stem cells have been able to help injured brain cells recover, as well as replace dead brain cells.
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In an interview with the Medical College of Georgia News, Dr. James Carroll, the head researcher on the study, said the study itself could be groundbreaking for sufferers of not only cerebral palsy, but also of all brain injuries. "Evidence up to this point has been purely anecdotal. While a variety of cord blood stem cell therapies have been used successfully for more than 20 years, this study is breaking new ground in advancing therapies for brain injury -- a condition for which there is currently no cure."
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During the study, 40 children ages 2-12 will be tested. Half will initially receive stem cells, while the other half will receive a placebo. After three months -- the point at which, anecdotally, the patients should show significant improvement -- the children will be tested by doctors. After this, the half of the study group that initially received the placebo will receive stem cells. All groups will be viewed again three and six months later.

Sunday, April 4, 2010

First Night Sex

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First night sex in a couple's life is always filled with anxiety, nervousness, hesitation and there are many questions which creep up in the back of your mind but with proper guidance and information you can make your first night memorable. For many people, the first time is quite unpleasant. If it is an arranged marriage then it will be very much difficult to open up and be sexually motivated on the first night itself but just remember one thing - sex is not at all important on the first night, get to know each other better and take it easy. You can also begin with touching and kissing and exploring each other but have sex only if you are ready for it and you are comfortable. Sex under pressure is no good and it leads to bitterness and disappointments. Make sure that both of you understand each other and respect one another's feelings and desire's. However for a couples, who know each other, first time is easier since, you know each other's likes and dislikes, and are more comfortable with each other.

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Some women might have pain and bleeding during insertion because the hymen breaks. Men might have premature ejaculation. These things happen because it's the first time your body experiences such emotions and extreme passion but with time, all these will settle down. But you can always make your first time really special and cherish it all your life.

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Following are a few questions that bother you:

Will it hurt the first time? Will I bleed?
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This is the most common question that girls ask. And the answer is "yes" you might bleed and it will hurt a little when you have sexual intercourse for the first time. But isn't it the truth that behind every happiness there lies little pain. The bleeding usually occurs because the girl has a hymen, which breaks the first time she has sexual intercourse. Sometimes a girl might already have broken her hymen as a result of playing sports, doing strenuous exercise or horse riding. However with the right touch and the right partner, you should be able to enjoy your first time without pain. Take your time, do not force yourself, use a lubricant if necessary, and guide him through. Tell him when it feels good and when it hurts.

Am I ready for sex?
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This is also another question, which bothers you, and you feel that may be it is not the right time or maybe you should wait but you are not sure. If you th9nk that you are not sure then you need not force yourself into doing it coz then you will only hurt yourself more. There are many ways in which you can give and receive sexual pleasure without having sexual intercourse. For some people giving each other massages, kissing and hugging can be very passionate and can be more fulfilling than sexual intercourse. Therefore what is important is to be comfortable in each other company and not to be pressurized into having sex when you don't really want to. Once you think that you are ready then go ahead and do it. And believe me this time it will really be fulfilling and memorable.

How do I have "good" sex?
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Will I be a good lover?
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Don't worry about this question at all. Being a good lover doesn't happen automatically and immediately. You have to give it a little time. And of course with the right partner, patience, time, care, and practice, you will definitely become a great lover. Your first times, for both you, will be fumbling, embarrassing and awkward, but hopefully they'll be the start of great times ahead for the rest of your lives.

Out of her dress A Day in the Life of a Fashion Designer, ut of her dress

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In generations past, the wedding night was indeed special as it was the first time a couple would have sex with each other. Over time, the importance of premarital virginity has waned considerably and these days it’s quite rare for a newly married couple to be engaging in their first act of sexual intercourse on their wedding night. Regardless, that doesn’t mean that it shouldn’t still be special. Even if you don’t place much importance on that first time as a married couple, chances are your new Mrs. does, so you should make a serious effort to make it memorable for both of you. It will also set the precedent for your future sex life as husband and wife. The question of how to deal with wedding night sex was posed by an AM reader, Alex M. Well, Alex, here are some suggestions for making your first night of wedded bliss one to remember.

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Ban pre-wedding sex

You’ve already enjoyed each other carnally, but you can still try to create the kind of anticipation that isn’t normally present in your everyday sex life for this special occasion. For a period of time before the wedding, ban all sexual contact so that your desire for each other will build up until the wedding night. The ban time will vary for each couple, depending on how often you usually get frisky. The basic formula is to hold out for twice as long as you normally would. If you are a few-times-a-week couple, a week-long sex ban should be sufficient, but if you tend to do it only once every other week, you might want to keep up the no sex rule for as long as a month before you say “I do.” To increase the expectation even more, add a “no nudity in each other’s presence” clause to your sex-ban agreement.

Get a room

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You may already be living together before your nuptials, but in order to make your wedding night special, you should spend it somewhere other than home. Put yourself in unfamiliar surroundings by booking a nice hotel room for the night. If you have some room left in the wedding budget, why not spring for the honeymoon suite? The point is to change the venue from the site of your everyday sex life to make your first time as husband and wife seem different and special.

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Do it early

Whether your wedding is a black tie affair or a casual beach event, the festivities will no doubt leave both of you exhausted by the end of the night. Traditionally, you’re supposed to wait until after the reception is over before you get your chance to be alone together, but you’re already flouting tradition with your premarital sex, so you might as well take a different approach here too. Don’t wait until you’re dead tired and probably at least a little drunk to consummate your marriage. Agree to sneak away during your reception to have a little alone time. The party will continue without you for a while; if need be, explain your plan to your best man and maid of honor so they can cover for you.

Help her out of her dress

Chances are your blushing bride is going to be dressed in an elaborate and difficult-to-get-into gown on your wedding night. She needs at least two bridesmaids to hold it up while she goes to the bathroom, so getting it over her head once you make it to the bedroom could be a challenge. Make taking her dress off part of your foreplay instead of letting her struggle with it on her own. Don’t get frustrated with the various buttons, bows and fasteners. Take your time and make it fun.

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married sex

Now that you’re married, you can let go of any inhibitions you might still have and fully enjoy your sex life with your wife. Married sex doesn’t have to be boring and routine. Start it off right by creating the perfect situation for some mind-blowing sex as husband and wife.

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Beauty and Stars
An interesting feature about Zodiac signs is that you can look them up from time to time and still find different and innovative nuances that catch your fancy. We tried to assemble some aspects with a view to take quick notes on their groups, based on the type of signs that they belong to; namely, Air, Water, Fire and Earth.

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Make up for the Dreamday
You`ve got the best of dresses for your trousseau, the jewellery is in proper contrast with the wedding dress and the accessories are also perfect. But what about the makeup! The traditional look is the best bet for the bride and never goes out of season.

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Honeymoon Essentials
Once the emotional and colorful stess of the wedding is over, it`s the time to relax for a couple. The couple come together either by love marriage or arranged, its important that they spend some seren time together away from the daily hustle bustle of the life and unwind before they start their life together.

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Honeymoon and You
The best reason for a honeymoon is for the rest and relaxation. The rigors of wedding planning are one of the most stressful events in your life. The peace of mind that you will enjoy is worth every penny. A honeymoon is an important part of your wedding. You will need to rest and relax after all the planning that has gone into your wedding day.

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Mehendi tips for the Bride
Applying of henna on the palms is called Mehendi. Henna is a natural product. Its leaves are dried and grounded to make the henna powder. Since it is a natural product, there are no known side effects. It usually takes many hours to get a good henna stain on the skin, and that stain is quite harmless.

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Divorce in India
While we talk about marriage and its significance in the life, its important that we also discuss the intricacies of the separation as it`s a right provided to all men and women on different grounds to separate if the marriage is not considered happy. Though it is still looked upon as a social evil, the law permits a couple to seperat ways on mutual grounds.
While we talk about marriage and its significance in the life, its important that we also discuss the intricacies of the separation as it`s a right provided to all men and women on different grounds to separate if the marriage is not considered happy. Though it is still looked upon as a social evil, the law permits a couple to seperat ways on mutual grounds. Also Indian women have their own rights to file for a divorce if not treated well. Even though we observe that women are ill treated in our country in rural as well as urban areas of India; a very small percentage of women who initiate for separation. But more and more social activists and social agencies are creating awareness about the laws and rights available to women as well as men. While this is one side of the tale, there are also cases where the law is twisted and turned and misused by both men and women. However, we must discuss the otherside of the heavenly knot.

The Law
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All major religions have their own laws which govern divorces within their own community, and separate regulations exist regarding divorce in interfaith marriages.

[Photo]Hindus, including Buddhists, Sikhs and Jains, are governed by the Hindu Marriage Act, 1955; Christians by the Indian Divorce Act, 1869; Parsis by the Parsi Marriage and Divorce Act, 1936; and Muslims by the Dissolution of Muslim Marriages Act, 1939, which provides the grounds on which women can obtain a divorce, and the uncodified civil law. Civil marriages and inter-community marriages and divorces are governed by the Special Marriage Act, 1956 (Kapur and Cossman 101).

Other community specific legislation includes the Native Converts` Marriage Dissolution Act, 1866 that allows a Hindu to appeal for a divorce if a spouse converts to Christianity (Virdi 36-37).

Grounds for Divorce

In most Western nations, there are approximately 16 distinct reasons for which divorces are granted. In India, however, only five main reasons are generally accepted as sufficient grounds for divorce (Choudhary 90).

Adultery. While no formal definition of adultery exists, it does have "a fairly established meaning in matrimonial law" (Diwan 171), namely "the voluntary sexual intercourse of a married man or woman with a person other than the offender`s wife or husband" (Choudhary 91). While the law considers it valid grounds for either sex, adulterous women are "judged more harshly" than men (Kapur and Cossman 102). The various religious regulations a e not unanimous on this issue. The law regarding Hindus allows divorce to be granted on the grounds of infidelity of either husband or wife. The Christian law, however, would traditionally not have granted a divorce to a woman solely on the grounds of adultery. She would have had to prove another violation, such as cruelty (Kapur and Cossman 102-4). A recent Bombay High Court decision "recognised cruelty and desertion as independent grounds for the dissolution of a Christian marriage," striking down a section of the law that allowed for an unconstitutional distinction between the sexes (Raiker-Mhatre 1).

Desertion. The three main components of desertion are the "disruption of cohabitation, absence of just or reasonable cause and their combination throughout three years" before the abandoned spouse may petition for a divorce (Virdi 71). There also must be an obvious intent on the part of the offending spouse to remain permanently apart from the other. This statute also applies to cases in which a spouse has been heard from for at least seven years (Choudhary 91).

Cruelty. As with adultery, "the definition of the type of behavior that constitutes cruelty varies according to the gender of the petitioner" of the divorce. "Despite the fact that cruelty is often equally available to husbands and wives, the way in which the law is interpreted and applied suggests that women and men are evaluated by rather different standards" (Kapur and Cossman 105). This category includes both physical and mental abuse and neglect (Choudhary 91). A court decision made in early May 1997 made cruelty sufficient grounds for a Christian woman to obtain a; previously, the law required both adultery and cruelty to be proven. The national Indian Christian community seems to have embraced this judgment (Raikar-Mhatre 1-2).

Impotency. This refers to the physical inability of the couple to consummate the marriage (Choudhary 91) or the refusal by one spouse to do so (Diwan 136). Some cases have established that sterility can be construed to mean non-consummation if the other partner is not aware of the condition before the marriage (Diwan 139).

Chronic Disease. Both mental and physical illnesses are included in this category, as well as sexually transmitted diseases (Choudhary 92). Not all religions recognize identical diseases as grounds for divorce. Christians and Parsis do not allow divorce for a sexually transmitted disease or leprosy while the other communities do (Diwan 204-5).

Consequences of Divorce

[Photo]Economic. There is great disparity between the economic ramifications of divorce between men and women. Men remain relatively unaffected while women, especially those with children, have difficulty "providing food, clothing and shelter for themselves and their children." The government in urban areas usually provides some form of public assistance to single mothers, but this service is not fully taken advantage of because most do not know of its existence (Amato 210). Often a woman is not able to rely on her family for support because many parents "feel they have discharged their obligations to a daughter by arranging her marriage and providing a dowry." Dowries are not returned after a divorce. Also, due to the social stigma of divorce, women find it difficult to remarry and usually attempt to establish an independent household (Amato 211).

Social. While India feels that one should have the right to divorce, it is still a highly stigmatizing action. Women are looked upon more harshly than men in this regard. There continue to be segments of Indian society that feel divorce is never an option, regardless of how abusive or adulterous the husband may be which adds to the greater disapproval for women. A divorced woman often will return to her family, but may not be wholeheartedly welcomed. She puts, especially if she has children, an economic burden on her family and is often given lowly household tasks to perform. There is also the risk that a divorced woman`s presence would ward off possible marriages for other daughters within the household. Unavoidably, the overall status of the family and household are lowered by having a divorcee living with amongst them. A woman`s class and caste are a major factor in her acceptance back into society. Women from higher classes tend to have an easier time than middle or lower class women in returning to the social order after a divorce. An exception to this model is the extreme bottom of the society who have experienced little rebuff from peers after a divorce. This results from their already atypical status in society (Amato 212-4).

Today, in India both divorce and remarriage are completely legal, whereas polygamy and polyandry are both criminal offenses, punishable by law.

Divorce was never associated with an increase in the emotional well-being of unhappily married spouses. Divorce did not make unhappily married spouses personally happier, or reduce depression, or increase personal mastery, or self-esteem, even after controlling for race, income, education, age, gender, employment status, and the presence of children in the home.By ending a strained marriage, divorce relieves some sources of emotional distress, and may remove the threat of harm from a dangerous partner. At the same time divorce can create new sources of distress, from financial troubles to new relationship problems.

Kissing Game love wedding

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Actors Shahid Kapoor and Kareena Kapoor are suing a Mumbai tabloid for printing a photo that showed them snogging in a restaurant, with Kareena bleating ‘I am shocked and upset’. Ha ha. But are we forward-thinking British Asians any different when it comes to kissing and not telling?

There’s no doubt there’s heavy petting going on behind every closed door, but for many of us, that’s where it remains. When was the last time you saw a happily married Asian couple kissing in public? Have you ever seen your parents kiss? Is the sight of Asians kissing something that only happens among singletons in the dark recesses of clubs, bars and cars?

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We were raised to believe public displays of physical attraction are unsightly, uncouth and unthinkable in the presence of other Asians, especially elders. The fact that a screen kiss in Bollywood still makes stormy headlines is a sign of primitive times, but while that can be dismissed as tasteless titillation, consider how rare it is to see couples kissing each other on their wedding photo album, a day that’s supposed to be the most romantic of their lives! Yet kissing between two people in love, whether it’s in a soppy romantic comedy or somewhere everyday like on a train platform, leaves anyone with a mushy heart thinking: ‘aww’. So why are we, as modern British Asian women, lagging so behind in the kiss chase?

The main reason is because we fear the gossip that follows the raised eyebrows. Admittedly, if you’re a 16-year-old with a hardcore nutter for a father and a boyfriend of, say, Caribbean descent, it’s understandable why locking tongues in public may be inadvisable. But you’re a grown woman in love with the man in your life. What are they going to say? ‘Can you believe she kissed her husband?’ What a terrible stain on your character that would be, eh?

It’s time to break the chain and lock the lips together. No one is suggesting you ram your tongue down each other’s throats at your nephew’s 10th birthday party, but to ban yourself from kissing means you’re allowing your couple time to be less intimate just because there happens to be other people around. Why let passers-by make you pass over the chance to get a bit of good loving into your day?

If you, like many Asian couples, think that breaking from the no kissing rule is more hassle than it’s worth, see it as something that will give your relationship a romantic boost by taking it, literally, to new territories. You don’t have to look over your shoulder or sneak away somewhere to steal a kiss – it’s your kiss. Kiss as you walk along the high street, kiss as you queue for the cinema, kiss as you push a trolley in Tesco or a pram in the park. The more you do it, the easier it’ll become. And you don’t need a science degree to appreciate the fact that the more physical intimacy there is between two people, the better their chemistry. So don’t let geography get in the way by banning yourself from kissing outdoors…

Start off today by embracing passionately on your doorstep whenever one of you leaves the other. If the neighbours are watching, let them watch. Maybe they’ll learn a thing or two. The important thing is, by taking your affections outside, you are no longer restricting displays of affection to the bedroom. Wagging tongues will always wag. But so long as your own tongue is wagging around in a delicious mouth, who cares?

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